Speak that which is Best!

In addition to body language, there are other rules regarding healthy communication that must be taken into account. The first of these rules is speaking that which is best. “Speaking that which is best” is the order of Allah (swt). In the verse, Allah (swt) states: "And tell My servants to say that which is best. Indeed, Satan induces [dissension] among them."(Isra, 17/53) For the peace of the family, it is necessary to apply this order of Almighty Allah (swt). Good words are words of appropriate justice. (Ahzab, 33/70) and they are far-reaching.(Nisa, 4/63) The word gains its effect with the style. In fact, many correct words lose their effect due to their style. For this reason, the addressee's feelings and level of understanding should be taken into account.(Nisa, 4/8)A word spoken in an emotionally difficult moment when the spouse cannot listen to him/her can cause a backlash. Nice words should be gentle. Harsh, rude and hurtful words harm the peace of the family. Almighty Allah (swt) ordered His prophet Musa to go to Pharaoh and speak gently to him. "And speak to him with gentle speech that perhaps he may be reminded or fear [ Allah ]." (Taha, 20/44)  While it is ordered to speak gently even to a person like Pharaoh, who is known for his evil and cruelty, the importance of this issue in family communication cannot be ignored. Because even when they think differently from us and act in a way that upsets us, being gentle with family members without getting angry (Al-i 'Imran, 3/159) will strengthen family ties.  It should not be forgotten that only good speech ascends to Allah. (Fatir, 35/10) And only the word that can ascend to the level of Almighty Allah (swt) affects the human heart.